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Featuring Robert Silber

Building Erotic Community

—A Participatory, Peer-led Learning & Play Event


Workshops, Play Parties, Community Building, Camp Out….Come for all 5 days or Pick & Choose Days.

Do you dream of a group of intimates and peers who practice together? A consistent, reliable, and safe community in which to play, experiment, make mistakes, find support, grow? A place for closeness, touch, intimacy, and ecstatic engagement? Many of us have explored the path of sacred sexuality alone or with another. But what does an intimate, erotic, and sensually engaged community look like? 

Using the vision of a decentralized, egalitarian, self-responsible erotic community as a guide, we offer a five day exploration into the building of and belonging to this sacred container. This is a creative experiment composed of multiple presenters all with a focus on sacred sexuality and informed by embodiment, trauma and attachment awareness, repair models, and conscious relating. 

We will practice rituals that utilize erotic energy, sensual touch, meditation, communication, and a focus on deepening our ability to generate, integrate and absorb erotic life-force energy. The goal is for transpersonal erotic freedom, personal and collective trauma healing, and pleasure-based bonding. We invite you to play at your level of comfort, to find your desires and boundaries. 

Think of this as a gathering of friends. A gathering of tribe. This is less of workshop and more of a skill share and community building experience. Inspired by Robert Silber’s visit to Asheville, we’ll focus on his rituals in the evenings and co-facilitation in the mornings and then have educational offerings from the community in the afternoons.

This is a sex-positive, touch-positive, community building event. Every participant is welcome to choose their level of engagement in any moment. 

Dates: July 21-25, 2023
Location: Dancing Shiva (A Queer Tantra Monastery) at Earthaven Ecovillage, Black Mountain, NC


DAILY SCHEDULE (Friday through Tuesday)


MORNING
10am to 12:30pm

Meditation, Circle, Gather, Check-in, Integration, Connection, De-brief, Movement.

Led by Robert Silber & Lee Warren & Others.

LUNCH
12:30-2:30pm

Extended lunchtime (all food is BYO).

AFTERNOON
2:30-6pm

Educational Offering from Community Members.

Schedule Coming Soon.

DINNER
6-7:30PM

Dinnertime (all food is BYO).

EVENING
7:30-9:30pm

Group Ritual led by Robert Silber.

HANGOUT
9:30-11:30pm

Post-ritual hangout hosted and held by community members. 

Attendees:

  • All intermediate and advanced students of conscious sensuality/sexuality are welcome.
  • Joining this event requires a combination of self-selecting (you decide upon reviewing this material if the event is right for you) as well as a team vetting component (see next steps).
  • All genders, sexual orientations, and expressions welcome. In fact this event is supportive of all expressions of human sexuality. We actively encourage engagement between same and opposite genders throughout the event.
  • We are extra excited about folks who are living in a community or actively building erotic communities.
  • Suggested prerequisites: The event team strongly suggests that folks have some kind of an embodiment practice, a familiarity and comfort with group eroticism, communication skills, self-regulation experience, witnessing capacity, emotional literacy, and an ability to be vulnerable with self and others.
  • This is likely to be a small group of folks. Our best guess is roughly between 15 and 25.

Please note that this is not a therapeutic environment. It’s trauma informed and held by folks with lots of experience but it’s lightly facilitated with the intention of peer engagement. All to say that this is not a guaranteed safe environment. All participants are asked to co-create the safety and resilience of the container. 


Evening Rituals

Each evening a hands-on ritual will be offered and facilitated by Robert Silber. We are not sure which evening will contain which ritual because we want to feel into the group and what’s the most alive for folks. You can be surprised along with the rest of us. We will choose from the following options:

Self-Pleasure:  Before we can connect erotically and sexually with others we must be able to access our own eroticism.  Feeling pleasure inside ourselves without reference to others is a key to healthy sexual development.  We must own our genitals, our sexuality, our pleasure without needing anyone else to do anything for us.  Being witnessed in our auto-eroticism is another key rite of passage, dissolving any shame in our pleasure, our bodies, our erotic expression.  

Innocent Touch ritual:  As babies we explore the world, we seek to fill our senses with pleasurable experiences without reference to others.  Non-verbal consent must be learned and embodied before interpersonal and verbal consent.  The innocent touch ritual is a personal and transpersonal journey to repattern sexual shame, fear and grief into adult consciousness with childlike innocence.  As we take responsibility for allowing only touch that feels pleasurable, we find the power and clarity to own our interactions, intimacy and sexuality with others.

Cakeshop:  Becoming a sexuality empowered and present Adult.  In this rite of passage ritual we speak and are witnessed in speaking our erotic desires to the object of our desire without shame.  We learn the difference between speaking a desire and making a request.  People learn how to take without shame and hold their boundaries with clarity and ease as well as enjoying the pleasure of being taken from with clear consent.  This is a key ritual to dissolve the drama triangle of victim/perpetrator/savior.

Ceremonies of Power:  Once people have awareness of their growth edges and challenges, they can create rituals designed to heal, re-pattern and create more space for pleasure and presence.  We will introduce the concepts and you will have an opportunity to practice creating your ceremonies of power in the open temple play spaces.  

Evening Hang Outs

Evening hangouts run from 9:30 to 11:30.

There will be three spaces for the hangouts. We are loosely using these Tantra terms to describe the spaces we will be inhabiting. 

  • White – A neutral place for connecting, hanging out, and engaging outside of sensual or sexual contact. 
  • Pink – A place for a wide range of connection including sensual and sexual within the parameters that panties/underwear stay on. 
  • Red – Any and all kinds of consensual intimate engagement is welcome here.

Facilitators & Support Team

Robert Silber

Facilitator, Presenter, Coordinator
In addition to founding the Institute for Conscious Sensuality (ICS) and the Hawaii Tantra Festival, Robert has taught with many of the leading sacred sexuality teachers around the world. He teaches bodywork that incorporates the elements of lomi lomi, thai, cranial sacral and pelvic release techniques in a process that is deeply empowering and transformative. He also provides conscious sensuality coaching, trainings and mentoring via phone/email/in person. His book is Conscious Sensuality: A meditation-based approach to embodiment, awareness, communication and sexuality.

Giles Carwyn

Coordination Support, Space Holding

Giles Carwyn is a Certified Shadow Work® Facilitator and Coach who specializes in men’s sexuality. He is the co-creator of the Eros Work Sexuality and Shadow program and the Men’s Sexual Shadow Transformation Weekend with Shadow Work® founder Cliff Barry. He is also a novelist, screenwriter, father, and  leader in the Asheville, NC ManKind Project.

Sarah Belzile

Presenter

Sarah Belzile is an intimacy and embodiment coach and erotic educator. She has facilitated transformational experiences for hundreds of people, in her role as a faculty member for the Body Electric School as well as with her own retreats, both virtual and in person. She is gifted at creating bespoke curriculum for groups and personalized practices for clients, so as to guide people towards deeper, more consensual relationships with themselves, nature and one another. Sarah is an avid explorer and student of tantra, kink and intimacy and has a profound trust in the healing power of love and connection.

Christina Chimera

Presenter

Ever exploring the art of humanness, Christina Chimera fully embodies her roles as intimacy coach, dominatrix, sex educator, mother, dancer, lover, kinky explorer, eco activist, playmate, gender fluid primal human, and animal. She offers intimacy coaching and embodied healing BDSM sessions to individual clients, couples, and groups. Drawing from her training in Yoga Therapy, Tantra, Nonviolent Communication, Sex Positive Sex Ed, Ecstatic Dance, Contact Improv, Ecosexuality, Sustainability, Primitive Skills, and Equestrian Studies, she creates grounded, conscious containers where participants can safely explore their intimate connections to self, earth, and others. 

Xilverfox

Presenter
Mana V McLeod (aka Xilverfox) works within the modalities of Tantra and Conscious Kink. She is most inspired by the daily moments of bliss and ecstasy combined with the more mundane opportunities for presence in everyday life as a form of the spiritual ‘Householder’ path. She is always intrigued by the transformation that can happen when awareness is added into the magic mix.

David Salih

Presenter

David Salih is a tantric yogi, provocateur, mountain minx, co-facilitator of tantric retreats at Dancing Shiva, integrating the archetypal beast and priest to connect and transform multiple levels of consciousness. Drawing upon 35 years of professional experience in music and DJing, he’ll be creating a musical matrix for us to ride the tantric waves of cosmic community. More at davidsalih.com

Lee Warren

Facilitator, Presenter, Coordinator

Lee Warren is devoted to personal and collective liberation through reclaiming the wisdom woven into every cell of our beings. Her approach to this liberation is to romance the brilliance inherent in each one of us through cultivating a profound intimacy with self, others, and the mystery. Her focus these days is education in three main areas: Sex, Death, & Community. The synthesis of this is the study and practice of TANTRA and mysticism. More about Lee here

Sean Dickinson

Coordination Support, Space Holding

Sean Dickinson the founder of the Heart of Success Coaching is a certified life and psycho spiritual integration coach specializing in living our best lives through letting go of the mind created ego identity and learning to live from our heart’s True Essence. A lifetime practitioner of several forms of meditation, breathwork, shamanism, plant medicine ceremony, 12 step work, NLP and the simple yet profound art of letting go. He is honored to serve as the men’s registration vetting coordinator and space holder for the event.

Julia Taylor

Presenter

As a Somatic Experiencing® practitioner, mediator, group facilitator, and friend Julia loves accompanying folks on journeys of transformation and lasting change towards wholeness, resilience, authenticity, and the connections they long for. She is a passionate advocate for cultivating radical-self-love and pleasure, and using those practices as powerful medicine and antidotes to the oppressive culture and experiences that inevitably, and differently, impact all of us. 

Brad Rootz

Presenter

Reverend Brad Amberheart is a Sacred Intimate, Tantric Sex Coach, & Spiritual Advisor who helps people come back home to who they really are using conscious, full-body touch.  Brad has guided groups and individuals world-wide for more than 20 years in the use of breath, whole-body pleasure, movement, sound, affirmation, and visualization to bridge the worlds of sex and soul’s purpose.

Swami Ravi

Presenter

Swami Ravi Rudra Bharati, formerly known as Dr. Rudolph Ballentine draws on more than 40 years of study, medical practice, and research, as he  presents a comprehensive, practical system of dynamic healing that helps us expand our self-awareness and guides us toward transformation and radical healing. He is committed to the integration of Eastern thought, particularly yoga and tantra, and permaculture. In 2004, he moved to Earthaven Ecovillage and developed the Dancing Shiva Tantric Monastery.

Hannah Borababy

Presenter
Hannah Borababy is a Sacred Intimacy Educator and Ritual Facilitator whose passion draws from a deep connection with the natural world and unseen realms. As a writer, Earth Magick practitioner and elemental channel, Hannah’s path is rooted in Conscious Sexuality and Sacred Embodiment. Certified in Flow Yoga & Essence Tantra, Hannah thrives by helping others connect with their essential nature by initiating and activating the sacred body temple, grounding in with the Earth, unlocking primal energy, cultivating healing relations, and unleashing the magic within. Learn more about her story and her work at TempleGaia.com

Afternoon Educational Offerings

These educational offerings are in process. They are subject to change–both the subject and the presenters. This is a rough outline and lineup based on what we know now (mid-June). Stay tuned and be prepared for the mystery!!!

Julia

Taylor

Friday, 2:30-6pm

Foundations of Repair: Explore the key elements and foundational building blocks of successful relational repair; what works, what doesn’t, and what skills and tools can help us track what is needed to move towards authentic repairHow do we do this well in community; with ourselves, our intimates, and community members? How do we as community organizers, leaders and members hold repair, accountability and response-ability? How can we build skills and set up systems that better support relational growth and repair rather than perpetuate continued unresolved harm and disrepair. Come ready to engage with body, mind, and soul; to move and be moved; to feel, explore, discuss, reflect; to practice and to play!

Hannah

Borababy

Saturday, 2:30-6pm

Mary Magdalene Sex Magic. Magdalene Sex Magic draws on the ancient mythos of Isis and her high priestess Mary Magdalene to awaken our ancient re-membrance of our own intrinsic divinity. Using story as our guiding template, we will celebrate Mary Magdalene’s feast day by harnessing sensual life force energy to bring all parts of ourselves into wholeness and direct our orgasmic potential through synchronized practice & group ritual with the intention to bring profound healing to ourselves, our lineages, and the Earth.

Giles

Carwyn

Saturday, 2:30-6pm

Communal Emotional Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation: A group ritual that invites us to intentionally step into and out of the five core emotions: fear, anger, grief, shame, and joy. Includes verbal sharing, mirroring, and collective embodiment of and detachment from the core emotions.

Christina

Chimera

Sunday, 2:30-6pm

Ecosexual Exploration: Drop into your animal, plant, body. Explore how your being is in partnership with this living planet with meditation, mindfulness, breathwork, and movement practices. Christina guides participants to taste their presence with this planet and all the sensations it has to offer. Participants will be invited to explore solo, in partnership, and in groups. All group explorations will be consensually cocreated to fit each participants boundaries and needs.

Brad Leaf

& Lee Warren

Sunday, 2:30-6pm

Grief & Eros: Grieving is a both a personal and collective necessity. Yet most of us grew up in a grief illiterate culture. In order to deepen with ourselves and others we must learn to sit in our sadness, sorrow, and grief. To show our true humanity to each other builds trust. And trust is a pre-requisite for authentic eroticism. Join us as we explore grief expression using eros as a guide. 

Robert

Silber

Monday, 2:30-6pm

Holistic Bodywork:  Once we have dissolved fear, shame and grief about our sexuality we have the opportunity to hold space for others to step into their power.  Robert will introduce the core components of trauma-informed conscious sensuality practitioner sessions that are accessible for everyone.  See the Conscious Sensuality Client Intake form as well as the Yoni Massage manual and the Conscious Sensuality book for more details (available upon registration).  Meditation, intake, touch rituals will be demonstrated and practiced.

Sarah Belzile

& Xilverfox

Tuesday, 2:30-6pm
Conscious Kink: Join Xilverfox and Sarah Belzile for a three hour exploration of the healing power of kink. During our time together, we will offer an embodied experience of conscious kink. And we’ll share some specific examples of healing journeys in order to expand and inspire the possibilities of your personal soulful kink exploration.

COSTS:

NOTE: This event is NOT a closed container. Come and go as you can. Join us for a portion or all of it. Once you’re vetted, we welcome as much or little of your participation as you desire.


5 Days
(Friday-Tuesday)

$500 (lodging costs are separate and BYO food).

3 Days
Any 3 Days

$333 (lodging costs are separate and BYO food).

2 Days
Any 2 Days

$235 (lodging costs are separate and BYO food).

1 Day
Any day you like

$150 (lodging costs are separate and BYO food).

See below details on food and lodging. Summary:

  • Please bring all of your own food. There is cooler and cooking space for all attendees.
  • Lodging (indoor and camping) is available.

There are no more work exchange position available but we want the right people there. We will work with you on price. Please reach out to Lee (contact info in footer).

Food & Lodging Details

Context: This event is being held at a rural ecovillage about 50 minutes outside of Asheville, NC. Think comfortable but rustic. If you want to read up on Earthaven Ecovillage. 

Food: Food is Bring Your Own (BYO) for all meals. There is a shared kitchen in which to keep coolers and heat things up. The recommendation is to bring a majority of  pre-made meals that can either be ready to eat cold or warmed up easily.

Lodging: There is camping and indoor lodging at Dancing Shiva. Here’s the scoop:

  • There are 10+ camping spots in this beautiful ecovillage neighborhood. 
  • Facilities: There are indoor and outdoor showers in 2 locations, as well as 2 outdoor and 1 indoor composting toilet. 
  • Indoor lodging consistents of 
  • Mattresses are provided but you’ll need to bring your own bedding. Lodging consists of 8 double beds. 

Costs

  • Every guest to the event pays a $6 Ecovillage Guest Fee (many thanks to the village for maintaining roads and water systems and all kinds of homegrown infrastructure over these many years). 
  •  Indoor Lodging is $45 per day per person if you are sharing a double bed. If you are solo in a double bed then the rate is $70 per day per person.
  • Camping is $20 per day per person.

Site Slideshow

Photos of Site Location
Dancing Shiva, A Queer Tantra Monastery
@ Earthaven Ecovillage, Western North Carolina

Next Steps if You’re Interested…

  1. Read through this webpage thoroughly.
  2. Fill out the pre-registration survey here.
  3. Our vetting team will be in touch with you to schedule a call.
  4. Talk to our vetting team by phone.
  5. Once vetted and approved, pay for the event (on this website page).
  6. You’ll receive an email confirmation with some reading materials and what to bring list. 
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