Do you dream of a group of intimates and peers who practice together? A consistent, reliable, and safe community in which to play, experiment, make mistakes, find support, grow? A place for closeness, touch, intimacy, and ecstatic engagement? Many of us have explored the path of sacred sexuality alone or with another. But what does an intimate, erotic, and sensually engaged community look like? 

Using the vision of a decentralized, egalitarian, self-responsible erotic community as a guide, we offer a five day exploration into the building of and belonging to this sacred container. This is a creative experiment composed of multiple presenters all with a focus on sacred sexuality and informed by embodiment, trauma and attachment awareness, repair models, and conscious relating. 

We will practice rituals that utilize erotic energy, sensual touch, meditation, communication, and a focus on deepening our ability to generate, integrate and absorb erotic life-force energy. The goal is for transpersonal erotic freedom, personal and collective trauma healing, and pleasure-based bonding. We invite you to play at your level of comfort, to find your desires and boundaries. 

Think of this as a gathering of friends. A gathering of tribe. This is less of workshop and more of a skill share and community building experience. Inspired by Robert Silber’s visit to Asheville, we’ll focus on his rituals in the evenings and co-facilitation in the mornings and then have educational offerings from the community in the afternoons.

This is a sex-positive, touch-positive, community building event. Every participant is welcome to choose their level of engagement in any moment. 

Each evening a hands-on ritual will be offered and facilitated by Robert Silber. We are not sure which evening will contain which ritual because we want to feel into the group and what’s the most alive for folks. You can be surprised along with the rest of us. We will choose from the following options:

Self-Pleasure:  Before we can connect erotically and sexually with others we must be able to access our own eroticism.  Feeling pleasure inside ourselves without reference to others is a key to healthy sexual development.  We must own our genitals, our sexuality, our pleasure without needing anyone else to do anything for us.  Being witnessed in our auto-eroticism is another key rite of passage, dissolving any shame in our pleasure, our bodies, our erotic expression.  

Innocent Touch ritual:  As babies we explore the world, we seek to fill our senses with pleasurable experiences without reference to others.  Non-verbal consent must be learned and embodied before interpersonal and verbal consent.  The innocent touch ritual is a personal and transpersonal journey to repattern sexual shame, fear and grief into adult consciousness with childlike innocence.  As we take responsibility for allowing only touch that feels pleasurable, we find the power and clarity to own our interactions, intimacy and sexuality with others.

Cakeshop:  Becoming a sexuality empowered and present Adult.  In this rite of passage ritual we speak and are witnessed in speaking our erotic desires to the object of our desire without shame.  We learn the difference between speaking a desire and making a request.  People learn how to take without shame and hold their boundaries with clarity and ease as well as enjoying the pleasure of being taken from with clear consent.  This is a key ritual to dissolve the drama triangle of victim/perpetrator/savior.

Ceremonies of Power:  Once people have awareness of their growth edges and challenges, they can create rituals designed to heal, re-pattern and create more space for pleasure and presence.  We will introduce the concepts and you will have an opportunity to practice creating your ceremonies of power in the open temple play spaces.  

Evening hangouts run from 9:30 to 11:30.

There will be three spaces for the hangouts. We are loosely using these Tantra terms to describe the spaces we will be inhabiting. 

• White – A neutral place for connecting, hanging out, and engaging outside of sensual or sexual contact. 
• Pink – A place for a wide range of connection including sensual and sexual within the parameters that panties/underwear stay on. 
• Red – Any and all kinds of consensual intimate engagement is welcome here.

These educational offerings are in process. They are subject to change–both the subject and the presenters. This is a rough outline and lineup based on what we know now (mid-June). Stay tuned and be prepared for the mystery!!!