Tantra for Couples
Exploring Intimacy as a Sacred Path of Healing & Awakening
You’re being invited to help shape a Tantra for Couples educational experience. What kinds of support, pacing, and containers might actually serve you as a couple now—emotionally, erotically, and relationally?
Your responses will inform whether and how future offerings take shape, and what they might need to include—or leave out.
Tantra is about building the capacity to be present—with ourselves and with others—in the body and in our wholeness, including our shadows and our unique gifts, while moving toward deeper intimacy and eros with life.
What is often known as sacred partnership begins as an inner marriage within each person: body and soul, inner and outer, adult self and child self, light and dark. This kind of integration asks for true grit—for unpacking, understanding, and claiming our essence and aliveness.
Committed partnership accelerates this process. It reliably brings us into contact with what is unhealed, avoided, or unconscious—often more completely than any other path. At the same time, it offers a relational container for integration that is difficult to find elsewhere.
And it is one of the hardest paths there is—often undertaken with very little comprehensive support.
There is no shortage of relationship guidance in our information-heavy digital world, particularly around attachment, trauma, and repair—much of it is valuable. From a Tantric lens, we hold all of that within a wider worldview—one that understands relationship as a place of reflection, empowerment, integration, and lived transformation.
We see intimacy as a death-and-rebirth process, continually unfolding for the benefit of our highest expression, individually and as a couple—if we are willing to enter the fire of it.
We are Damon Sean and Lee. We live in Asheville, North Carolina and are in our 4th year of relationship. Our work together grew out of our shared studies in Tantra and our involvement in erotic and community-based spiritual practice. We currently serve as ministers with the Temple of Living Eros, a church dedicated to human liberation and embodied spirituality through the principles of Tantra.
Both of us have lived in the mountain region of Western North Carolina since 1998. Before finding each other, we each made sincere attempts at long-term partnership with beloveds who were—as we are—both beautiful and wounded. We came together in our early fifties, drawn by a shared love of dance, nature, simple living, and inner work, as well as a desire to experience mature relating.
This stage of life has been clarifying. Rather than searching for “the one” who will complete us—a myth we’ve both outgrown—we are aligned with addressing trauma patterns, attachment wounds, and long-held survival strategies within the context of the healthy yet imperfect partnership that we are fortunate and delighted to be in.
Lee Warren
I believe we’re all here to discover our genius, which is often hidden in the deep caves of our bodies, guarded by the dragons of our conditioning. To romance the brilliance inherent in us, each of us must find a path that is a true fit. Most often, that path lives well outside the dominant script.
I have long walked that path and now work as a guide in these thresholds—teaching and counseling within both end-of-life and tantric mystery schools. These studies are expressions of the same current: the twin vulnerabilities of incarnation and impermanence.
At the center of my work is the body—the most sensitive, finely attuned, and intuitive instrument of emergence we have access to. It carries our plot lines, failures, dreams, and shadow, all of it holding the exact recipe for our becoming. We each carry an incorruptible blueprint, a holographic inheritance of the divine. Through the gifts of somatic listening, trauma healing, attachment repair, pleasure-based modalities, and parts work, we are now able to build real trust with the self, more fully incarnate, and repattern ourselves toward our highest expression.
Equally central to my work is a deep commitment to the collective. I understand human evolution as inherently relational, shaped through networks of shared intelligence—more mycelial than hierarchical.
This perspective is rooted in over 30 years of lived experience in rural intentional community, including nearly three decades as an ecovillage designer and developer. Ever the educator and facilitator, I am the founder of Reclaiming Wisdom, where I teach and consult about community and tantra; a co-founder of SOIL, the nonprofit school at Earthaven Ecovillage; served for seven years as executive director of a sustainable agriculture educational nonprofit; and was, for ten years, the program director of a 1,200+ person annual gathering in the Southeast. I am the author of the book Dying Together: The Art of Community Death Care and offer death education through QueenofDeath.org.
I was first introduced to Tantra through Margot Anand’s work in the 1980s. Since then, I’ve been shaped by many teachers and lineages, drawing from Jungian psychology, somatic experiencing, shamanism, nonviolent communication, the Enneagram, the Zegg Forum, parts work, and the wisdom of many mentors such as Sobonfu Somé, Sarah Taub, Joseph Aldo, The Sri Vidya tradition via Swami Ravi, Evalena Rose, Cathleen Cienfuegos, Monique Darling, Body Electric, Cass Phelps and Continuum. Ultimately, my deepest education has come through the school of direct experience, where mistakes, edges, and lived experiments teach more than any formal training.
The greatest crucible, however, has been primary relationship in the form of romantic, intimate, sacred union—a throughline of this life. It has been the greatest if all catalysts, explored through many seasons and forms, including polyamory, monogamy, conscious kink, sacred sexuality, and long-term devotion. Each configuration has been a teacher, offering its own initiations, limits, and revelations.
At this stage of life, that inquiry has found its home within a committed partnership with my co-teacher, Damon Sean. This relationship is a living training ground—one I cherish—rooted in depth, passion, honesty, and mutual accountability.
Damon Sean Dickinson
I am a seasoned coach and healer with three decades of experience supporting individuals and couples in cultivating embodied intimacy, nervous system regulation, and sacred partnership. My work rests on a simple understanding: our bodies and our relationships reveal our inner world, and therefore are a potent gateway to the sacred.
I bring a grounded, trauma-informed, and spiritually curious approach that honors all the parts that make up a whole being, inviting clients into deeper connection and compassion with themselves and one another. My path weaves together training in energy healing, meditation, breathwork, NLP, tantra, somatic work, Sedona Method, and Internal Family Systems (IFS) parts work, alongside many years of personal growth, men’s work, and community building. I have studied with a range of teachers in tantric, contemplative, and esoteric traditions and continue to refine my craft through ongoing study and practice.
Growing up in an under-resourced family shaped by trauma—as is true for so many—I learned early to cope through addiction. I entered treatment in my late teens and was sober by the time I was twenty. While this marked the beginning of real recovery and a reclamation of my innate goodness, it did not resolve everything. Even substance free, and alongside a committed spiritual practice, I continued to struggle for many years with feeling at home in myself and enjoying happy and healthy intimate relationships. Discovering parts work became a turning point, allowing me to understand the protective strategies and buried exiles shaping my inner world and relational life, and to begin meeting them with curiosity, compassion, and Self love.
This remains an ongoing practice—learning how my outer experiences reflect my inner world, while taking responsibility for shaping it. At the same time, I am learning how to become my own loving parent, cultivating a more harmonious inner family. Equally at home in the physical and metaphysical realms, my work is grounded in direct experience rather than ideology. What I offer is shaped less by theory than by what life itself continues to teach me—through fatherhood, partnership, friendship, and serving my community. It is a path that is both humbling and deeply empowering.
In my sessions and groups, I emphasize presence, deep listening, and intuitive inquiry, creating containers where participants can explore embodied Eros and pleasure, emotional truth, and relational repair at a nervous-system-attuned pace. I am devoted to supporting couples who feel called to use relationship itself as a pathway—meeting one another where fear and desire surface as conflict, and allowing those moments to become opportunities for revelation, transformation, and integration.
Tantra is embodied intimacy.
Tantra is about being erotically alive in the midst of exactly what’s emerging in every moment.
Tantra is a study of the subtle energies.
Tantra is surrendering fully to the river of life.
Tantra is learning to trust pleasure.
Tantra is reclaiming sensuality and sexuality as our inherent, healthy, holistic, and beautiful birthright.
Tantra is a doorway to the divine inside of us and others.
Tantra teaches us to open our inner flutes to play the instrument of us as we were designed to be.
Tantra welcomes all of life. Tantra transforms all of life.
Interested in this journey? Desire to explore more? Here are the next steps……
- Read through this webpage thoroughly.
- Fill out this survey to let us know what you’re interested in learning.
- Plan to attend a listening session in February 2026.
- Make sure you’re on our e-mailing list.
