I help people fall in love with existence through preparing for death.
I have helped hundreds of folks, of all ages and stages, use death preparation as a practice for more ecstatic aliveness.
As a Tantra and death educator, I know that life and death are interwoven lovers, two halves of the same whole.
As a mystic, I am committed to seeing death as a portal or journey for our spiritual selves.
As an embodiment practitioner, I am equally as committed to honor and support the sometimes messy and often heartbreaking aspects of the death & dying process.
My offer to you is more intimacy with death. That looks like ease, acceptance, and empowerment with the the end-of-life process (yours and others’).
It is my profound honor…
To help individuals and their loved ones achieve clarity about their end-of-life wishes, come to peace regarding death, and embrace the sacredness of their existential journey.
I do this through heartfelt conversations, emotional presence and engagement, facilitated discussions, meditation and mindfulness practices, education, personalized care plans, rituals and ceremonies, and support and resources.
I believe…
- We are wired to know how to die.
- Contemplating death produces an increase in awe and wonder. These ecstatic states come with an intimate relationship to the mystery.
- Together, we can transform death from a whispered fear to a profound dialogue.
Preparing for death, internally and externally, leads to death literacy, death acceptance, death positivity, and most importantly a profound connection to our own specific soul’s journey.
I do this work because I was born for it.
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How I got here:
People often ask me how I got interested in death.
I have been fortunate to learn from the dying within the context of a village. Over two years, from 2016 to 2018, there were six deaths at Earthaven Ecovillage, the place I called home for more than two decades.
These deaths, and the generous people who experienced them, offered incredible opportunities for service to the great mystery. My experiences ranged from preparing end-of-life paperwork, working with hospice, sitting with the dying, collaborating with families on all aspects of the death process, to tending our beloveds for after-death services, creating home wakes, home funerals, and home burials.
The end-of-life ceremonies and rituals we practiced wove together the fabric of our community, infusing meaning into every aspect of the death process.
What I’ve learned:
Living in a village for 30 years taught me taught me a lot about the practical aspects of life. Tantra and mysticism has taught me that life and death are one. My own personal essence gives me a fuel to inquiry, teach, and redesign the systems of our world.
- Death can be a gift for all involved.
- We have everything we need internally for a good death.
- Conscious and positive death experiences are possible.
- Preparing in advance, both internally and externally, makes a good death more possible.
- A village context is by far the best way to depart. So let’s build the village. Everywhere.
- Tending to the dying creates a bond with the whole in a way that nothing else does.
The only way to live without fear is to go to the source of all fears: DEATH. If we can make friends with her, what kind of life would we be able to live?
I love being in that conversation!
My Teachers
I have been a long-time apprentice of embodiment. Through the great gifts of somatic experiencing, attachment repair, co-regulation, pre- and peri-natal therapy, parts-work, tantra, and so many blessings, I am becoming more adapted, present, and alive. My primary spiritual paths include building trust with the self, becoming fully incarnating, and rewiring the nervous system to fully attune to the great good fortune and profound mystery of existence.
I am also an ongoing, humble, awe-struck, and grateful student of:
- the land, which teaches me, lovingly, just how much she doesn’t know,
- the creative life-force, which moves in her like an abundant and ever-flowing river,
- the soul, my soul, and the journey of the soul across time and space that guides me.
- the inevitability of my own death, which teachers me to be gloriously alive in the now.
At a collective level, I’ve had privilege of living within the context of community, mostly rural, land-based, intentional community, for nearly 30 years. In that crucible, I’ve learned an unimaginable amount about relating to self, land, and others. It is because of this privilege that she is committed to regenerating culture and reclaiming the wisdom that allows for a deeper intimacy with all life.