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Through an Intimacy with All of Life
End of Life Planning & Paperwork Workshop

An IN-PERSON Weekend Workshop with Brynn Bishop

Attachment Repatterning
in Community

Attracting healthy, nourishing, and pleasurable relationships by repatterning our nervous systems together.

At Christmount Assembly in Black Mountain, NC

May 24, 25, 26, 2024

Friday Evening, May 24, 6:30-9:30pm

Saturday, May 25, 9:30am to 5:00pm

Sunday, May 26, 9:30am to 5:00pm

In this two and a half day workshop, we will explore, in a sacred community context, the healing power of human connection through a deep dive into the repair and repatterning process.

This is an in person workshop in Black Mountain, NC. Attendees are on their own for food & lodging. There will be a 1.5 hour lunch break on Saturday and Sunday. The location is close to restaurants or feel free to bring your own food.

“Being comfortable in your own skin and having tools that help you relax is a really big deal, but learning how to feel safe with others is revolutionary.”

 Diane Poole Heller, The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships

Why attachment matters…

We know that early attachment experiences form our unconscious beliefs and expectations of reality. As a result we are attracted to others that mirror our childhood patterns and match our inner template of “love.” If our caregivers were unreliable, unavailable, dismissive, invasive, or abusive, we can struggle with feeling safe, loved, and valued in our relationships. 

Yet through discoveries in neurobiology and the adaptability of the brain, we’re now learning that we can rewire early attachment traumas, increase our window of resilience, and create secure and dynamic intimacies. 

Even if we’ve had challenging childhoods, these revolutionary methods repair and repattern the nervous system from maladaptive responses into expanded states of relaxation, connection, and joy. 

As we release outdated, disruptive, and dysfunctional habits from our nervous systems we create new networks based on safety, empowerment, and integrity. This new baseline opens the door to attracting and sustaining healthy (ie, satisfying and mature) adult relationships. 

Healing attachment trauma enhances personal confidence and resilience; releases us from isolation, shame, and fear; provides more ease in connection with others; and invites us to full engagement with all of life. 

The content will include an understanding of the ROOT CAUSE of relationship challenges and a cutting-edge methodology to REWIRE them. 

Folks of every gender, orientation, and relationship style are welcomed and celebrated. Singles and committed folks are all encouraged. Coherence and attachment to self and to others within community are our models for this event. 

Topics Covered

Attachment & Survival Systems: Learn how our brains are wired for love and how developmental traumas can impact our adult relationships and capacity for intimacy. Understand attachment systems including secure attachment and three insecure attachment adaptation strategies; the survival systems of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn; the range of resilience and how to increase it.

Nervous System Regulation: We’ll explore self regulation and co regulation in a group context which will help us each discern our Range of Resilience, and how to expand it, tame our inner critic and access greater self-compassion, as well as learn about mitigation techniques for calming our own (or our partner’s) nervous system when triggered. 

Community Connection. We’ll be using the element of community to create a coherent, supportive, and engaged playground in which to learn, practice, and repattern these connection skills. The healing power of community is part of the magic. 

Healthy Attachment Re-Patterning™: Discover a cutting-edge methodology that can actually rewire your early survival programming to develop Secure Attachment as an adult so you can feel more ease, receptivity, and nourishment. 

This in-person workshop is open to folks who want to deepen into self, other, and community connection. There is a strong experiential and embodiment component to this event. 

“When your nervous system can co-regulate with other people, and you feel safe and playful and relaxed, you can develop a stronger sense of secure attachment and enjoy its profound rewards, no matter what environment you grew up in.”

 Diane Poole Heller, The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships

Instructor: Brynn Bishop

More about Brynn:

Through her own journey of personal growth, healing and exploration, Brynn has learned and synthesized some of the most potent body-mind modalities to create lasting transformation.

Testimonials

More Testimonials

“When I began working with Brynn, I was very much in a place of anxiety: afraid of rejection, afraid of disconnection, seeking approval, not allowing myself to experience joy because of its inevitable end. My inner little girl felt very wounded. She felt wronged, neglected by her father, incapable of being loved, distrustful. I started this journey with a lack of self-compassion. Wanting to be perfect, because only perfection would bring me the love I craved.  Through my work with Brynn I’m setting a new imprint of what is actually true about me. I am repairing my relationship with my father. I am embodying the knowledge that I am worthy of a man’s love and desire. I am embracing my own physical beauty knowing that it’s intrinsically connected to the beauty of my heart. I’m learning to transform my pain into power.”  –  Christina

“Before working with Brynn I was fraught with anxiety, insecurity, feeling needy and like I could never get enough attention, affection, sex, praise, re-assurance, etc. Through the work we have been doing I can honestly say I’m feeling genuinely happy and more at peace with myself. I realize I don’t have to be perfect, I can be me, and I’m enough. My wife is grateful for the changes – that I am less needy and more secure. You have taught me how to honestly give and receive love.”   – Larry  

“Brynn guided me with grace and compassion from a triggered state to insight to joy! Most impactful was her presence, which encompasses huge empathy, deep insight, safety, attunement, humor, engagement and wisdom. I can’t recommend Brynn enough. Take a risk! You’ve got nothing to lose.” – Anne

“I began working with Brynn because I was feeling stuck emotionally with myself and with my partner. Personally I’ve done a lot of different work over decades: traditional talk therapy, CBT, DBT, Yoga, you name it.  It’s been incredible working with Brynn. She has helped to accelerate getting unstuck and address some deep wounds. The support she provides during and post session are incredibly valuable and unique to working with her.  I understand more about why I was feeling stuck and having the emotional reactions that I was. I can now communicate my needs and wants better with my partner. Brynn has provided so many really actionable tools for me to use in my day to day to strengthen my relationships in a positive way.” – Anna

Local Hosts

Working in collaboration with Brynn is this team of folks who have formed a conscious intimacy and Tantra-based leadership collaboration to bring workshops and events to the Western NC region. 

Lee Warren

Event Coordinator, Workshop Support

Lee Warren is devoted to personal and collective liberation through reclaiming the wisdom woven into every cell of our beings. Her approach to this liberation is to romance the brilliance inherent in each one of us through cultivating a profound intimacy with self, others, and the mystery. Her focus is on education in three main areas: Sex, Death, & Community. The synthesis of this is the study and practice of TANTRA and mysticism. Her mission is to offer her leadership, learning, and insight in pleasurable service to the whole. Her vision is where folks are co-creating sane, pleasurable, integrated, cohesive, connected, and blissful lives. Within and without. 

David Salih

Workshop Support

David’s tantric journey has taken him from leading transformational workshops for Landmark Education in 2005-2011, coaching private clients since 2008, being a master bodywork and energywork professional for 25 years, and studying Sri Vidya tantra with Swami Ravi, including a 3 year intensive tantra teachers training. David has facilitated tantra workshops in the US and Mexico. He loves integrating classic tantra with neo-tantra, exploring transformative community dynamics, and conjuring alchemy through music, theater, and eroticism. More at davidsalih.com

Damon Sean Dickinson

Logistics & Workshop Support

Damon Sean Dickinson a decades-long practitioner of breathwork, open-heart meditation, zen, shamanism, plant medicine, and 12 step recovery. As a 6/2 Projector in Human Design, he holds a specific and unique role as a mentor, guide, and support for others to embrace their authentic self and uncover their true essence. Damon Sean works with a variety of modalities such as Sedona Method, Flower Essences, NLP, Internal Family Systems, Tantra, and the simple yet profound art of letting go. Equally at home in the physical and metaphysical worlds, Damon Sean is a true Renaissance soul – weaving his life experience into his psycho spiritual integration coaching and his ongoing experimentation as a dad, partner, friend, and community member. 

Robyn Lynn

Workshop Support

Robyn Lynn is a Tantra educator, Somatic Coach, group facilitator, feminine mystic, and a guide for those who want to deepen their sense of intimacy, connection and presence in an embodied way. A lifelong student of the unified field, she sees this as the source of meaningful healing, renewal, and inspiration. She has over a decade of experience supporting men, women, couples, and groups. She’s a certified Sexological Bodyworker & Somatic Sexologist with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco and has done graduate Study in Mental Health Counseling at Antioch University, Seattle and has a  B.A. in Psychology, Macalester College, St. Paul MN. More at: robynlynn.net

Our goal and desire in offering this workshop is to build embodied, attachment-literate, and self aware group containers. Our long term plan is to deepen with a group of people over time to create a cohort of beloveds who deepen on the Tantric path together in support of each’s others awakening and transformation. 

How this work impacts us…

What are healthy attachment styles and how are they formed?

When our primary caregivers are attuned to us and our basic physical and emotional needs get met well enough, we form a Secure Attachment to our primary caregivers. This enables us to develop a secure sense of self, feel confident and comfortable in our own skin, and experience ease coming into and out of connection with others. We trust ourselves and feel confident in our autonomy. At the same time, we feel safe with others and know we can rely on them when we need them. This forms a foundation of trust, ease and fulfillment for all future relationships.

When our primary caregivers were not able to meet our needs consistently enough, or were absent, intrusive or felt threatening, then our brains develop survival mechanisms to try to get our needs met. These get wired in as our Attachment Adaptations which form the blueprint for all future relationships.
The three Attachment Adaptations are Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment and Disorganized attachment.

What is Healthy Attachment Re-Patterning?

Healthy Attachment Re-Patterning (HARP) is a cutting edge process that provides ‘corrective experiences’ for adults who (like most of us) experienced attachment disruption with our primary caregivers as children. Through this process one can gently and efficiently release dysfunctional relational patterning from their nervous system, lay down new neural networks of safety, empowerment, and enjoyment, and create more connected, fulfilling adult relationships.

Based on the latest research in neuroplasticity, this revolutionary method retrains the nervous system out of frozen fight or flight responses into expansive states of relaxation, connection, peace and joy. This freedom from outdated survival mechanisms empowers individuals to experience greater ease, pleasure and deep soul nourishment in their relationships.

Why is Healthy Attachment Re-Patterning so effective?

Unlike traditional talk therapy, this method releases survival programing on the level of the nervous system. Rather than simply treating behavioral symptoms, you heal the core cause of what’s blocking you from more fulfilling intimacy. It goes beyond the rational mind to actually rewire your brain and create new neural networks of safety, security and nourishment – so that you can finally feel relaxed, at ease, confident in yourself and deeply connected and nourished with others. 

Who can benefit from Healthy Attachment Re-Patterning?

You Can Benefit from Healthy Attachment Re-Patterning If …

        * You often feel anxious about being judged, rejected or abandoned

        * You crave intimacy and yet find it scary or overwhelming

        * You’re afraid of losing yourself in relationship

        * At times you feel hijacked by strong emotional reactions (anxiety, shame, fear, sadness, defensiveness, resentment, anger, etc)
 
       * The thought of getting close to someone and them leaving is terrifying

       * You have difficulty identifying and/or advocating for your own needs and desires

       * You continually push self-care, nourishment and pleasure to the bottom of the to-do list
 
        * You can feel like you are continually attending to others, and sometimes feel resentful you aren’t receiving enough appreciation, attention, affection and care in return

        * You want to feel more confidence and that you matter

        * You fear having your space, autonomy and freedom infringed upon in relationship

What are the most comon benefits of Healthy Attachment Re-Patterning?

Based on cutting edge research of how the brain, memory and the social engagement systems work, this powerful approach leads to:

       * Enhanced sense of empowerment, freedom and connection

       * Greater confidence and resiliency in your nervous system

       * Release from patterns of isolation, shame, guilt, resentment and fear

       * More ease coming into and out of connection

       * The capacity to take in nourishment more readily

       * Decreased anxiety and depression

       * Increased capacity to develop and sustain intimate, fulfilling relationships

       * Full engagement and enjoyment of life

How does my attachment style impact my adult relationships?

Your early attachment wiring forms your unconscious beliefs and expectations of relationship. It acts like an invisible ‘lens’ through which you view yourself, others and the world. You will be naturally attracted to partners who mirror your early childhood experiences and match your internal template of ‘love.’ If as a child you experienced your primary caregivers as generally safe, reliable, warm, caring, nurturing, responsive and respectful, you will likely attract available, loving, supportive partners. However, if you experienced your primary caregivers as unreliable, physically or emotionally unavailable, dismissive, invasive, domineering or otherwise un-attentive to your needs, you will likely struggle with feeling safe, loved, valued and honored in your adult relationships.

Can attachment styles change?

Your Attachment Style is like the operating system of your relational brain. It runs in the background, below your conscious awareness. It dictates how you experience yourself – whether or not you feel confident, capable and worthy of love and respect. And it determines how you relate to others – whether you generally feel secure in your connections with others, or you begin to feel anxious, avoidant, scared or confused when you get more intimate.

Your attachment style programming is usually installed early on, but updates can be installed later in life due to circumstances. For example, if you go through a traumatic breakup, you may develop more anxious or avoidant tendencies toward future relationships.

However, the reverse is also true. Through ‘corrective experiences’ with another, one can develop more secure attachment later in life. This can happen in an intimate relationship, or by working with a specialist in Attachment Re-Patterning.

Taken from Brynn Bishop’s website here. You can use the link to take an attachment quiz. 

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued.”

― Brené Brown

Benefits of a Group Context

If this is your first time deepening into attachment systems, we welcome you. If you are familiar with attachment systems, expect to deepen in your work. 

We’ve come to understand that neural rewiring is enhanced (both in greater depth and in shorter periods of time) when experienced in the context of play. 

A safe group of attachment literate folks is a fabulous way to ground into new patterns. The group resonance field helps everyone in the room to experience a settled and solid sense of belonging.

Personal Growth: Many folks in the attachment and trauma healing community have familiarity with spiritual transformation. Many folks in the container will have a solid sense of presence. If this work is new to you, you will likely develop these traits. Specifics include: 

  • emotional intelligence (active listening and responsible expression skills)
  • capacity to track and attune to self and others
  • awareness of our own trauma, relationship patterns, and attachment history
  • understanding the importance of a regular embodiment practice (somatic therapy, movement, or other)

Nervous System Literacy: Many of us have been developing a basic understanding of nervous system regulation including concepts of resilience, window of tolerance, and sympathetic (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and parasympathetic (rest/digest) responses. When we have this we are able to take responsibility for our own emotional responses including self regulation in a group. This can be learned!

Group Connection: This event focuses on experiential and somatic based learning. There will be opportunities for partner and group exercises. The intention of this event is to build resilience within a community container so we learn to build attachments to multiple platonic others and to the group in general. If you come with a partner, you are welcome to do all the practices with your partner.


Expectations

Group Field

A coherent group frequency holds incredible opportunity for personal and collective repatterning. Attachment wounds happen in relationship and heal in relationship. When relationship is experienced through a loving community context, there is promise of enhanced and expedited healing. We become aware of the abundance of presence, attunement, and love in our lives. 

As we enter the laboratory of group play, we invite these components: embodiment, repetition, and understanding as the recipe for nervous system repair. Each learning module will be accompanied by experiential practice. 

Connection

How much group connection is involved or required? We will have paired exercises that include verbal sharing, eye gazing, comfort touch, emotional expression, and embodied movement. Our goal is to strike a balance between regulation that is self referenced and regulation that is other referenced. 

Engagement with others can bring up sympathetic nervous system responses for some folks. As can being in a group in general. We encourage participation at your own level of comfort. Experiment with minimal amounts of challenge and maximum amounts of healing. 

Consent

Each participant gets to choose, moment by moment, what’s right for them. The practice of consent encourages us to find our yes and our no in every interaction. Checking in with ourselves is part of the journey towards regulation, self awareness, and tracking subtle energies. Finding our truth sooner and more often helps us navigate complex relationship and supports us to move towards healthy and mature engagements. 

While this workshop prioritizes experiential and embodied practices, all exercises are optional. Participation and non-participation are each a contribution to the whole. 

Get Registered

For This Event


Price Details:

Fees for a Solo Registration:

  • $333 if registered before 3/22/2024
  • $375 if registered before 5/1/2024
  • $425 starting 5/1/2024

Fees for Partnered Registration:

  • $666 $600 if registered before 3/22/2024
  • $375 $675 if registered before 5/1/2024
  • $850 $765 starting 5/1/2024

This workshop’s capacity is 40. It may sell out. The earlier you register the better. 

Partnership:

We value intimate partnership in the context of community. For the purposes of this workshop and for determining your type of payment, we define partner as someone with whom you’re in a primary committed relationship. These primary attachment figures pose opportunity for the greatest amount of healing and the greatest amount of challenge in relationship. We welcome partners in this community container and are offering discounted fee for more affordability.

Accessibility:

In general, we try to provide sliding scale pricing for all of our events but the nature of this workshop requires a set price. We are bringing in Brynn from the Northeast and our expenses are higher than usual. Given the lack of wiggle room in the budget we’re asking folks to contribute to the scholarship fund if they are able. That will help fund folks who wouldn’t otherwise be able to attend. 

If you need financial support for attending, please fill out this form. There are no full scholarships available but we can likely offer scholarships of $50, $75, or $100 off of the Solo fee. Partner rates are already discounted so the scholarships are more limited. 

Please Note:

There are no refunds for this workshop. Should you have an emergency, you can do a one-time transfer of your registration to a qualified person (they must comply with the prerequisites).

Fees are for the workshop only. Attendees are on their own for food and lodging. There will be a 1.5 hour lunchbreak on Saturday and Sunday. The venue will be nearby restaurants and grocery stores. 

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