An IN-PERSON Weekend Workshop with Brynn Bishop
Building Intimacy in Community
Asheville or Black Mountain, NC
In this two and a half day workshop, we will explore, in a sacred community context, the healing power of human connection through a deep dive into the repair and repatterning process.
Attachment & Survival Systems: Learn how our brains are wired for love and how developmental traumas can impact our adult relationships and capacity for intimacy. Understand attachment systems including secure attachment and three insecure attachment adaptation strategies; the survival systems of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn; the range of resilience and how to increase it.
Nervous System Regulation: We’ll explore self regulation and co regulation in a group context which will help us each discern our Range of Resilience, and how to expand it, tame our inner critic and access greater self-compassion, as well as learn about mitigation techniques for calming our own (or our partner’s) nervous system when triggered.
Community Connection. We’ll be using the element of community to create a coherent, supportive, and engaged playground in which to learn, practice, and repattern these connection skills. The healing power of community is part of the magic.
Healthy Attachment Re-Patterning™: Discover a cutting-edge methodology that can actually rewire your early survival programming to develop Secure Attachment as an adult so you can feel more ease, receptivity, and nourishment.
Lee Warren
Lee Warren is devoted to personal and collective liberation through reclaiming the wisdom woven into every cell of our beings. Her approach to this liberation is to romance the brilliance inherent in each one of us through cultivating a profound intimacy with self, others, and the mystery. Her focus is on education in three main areas: Sex, Death, & Community. The synthesis of this is the study and practice of TANTRA and mysticism. Her mission is to offer her leadership, learning, and insight in pleasurable service to the whole. Her vision is where folks are co-creating sane, pleasurable, integrated, cohesive, connected, and blissful lives. Within and without.
David Salih
David’s tantric journey has taken him from leading transformational workshops for Landmark Education in 2005-2011, coaching private clients since 2008, being a master bodywork and energywork professional for 25 years, and studying Sri Vidya tantra with Swami Ravi, including a 3 year intensive tantra teachers training. David has facilitated tantra workshops in the US and Mexico. He loves integrating classic tantra with neo-tantra, exploring transformative community dynamics, and conjuring alchemy through music, theater, and eroticism. More at davidsalih.com
Damon Sean Dickinson
Damon Sean Dickinson a decades-long practitioner of breathwork, open-heart meditation, zen, shamanism, plant medicine, and 12 step recovery. As a 6/2 Projector in Human Design, he holds a specific and unique role as a mentor, guide, and support for others to embrace their authentic self and uncover their true essence. Damon Sean works with a variety of modalities such as Sedona Method, Flower Essences, NLP, Internal Family Systems, Tantra, and the simple yet profound art of letting go. Equally at home in the physical and metaphysical worlds, Damon Sean is a true Renaissance soul – weaving his life experience into his psycho spiritual integration coaching and his ongoing experimentation as a dad, partner, friend, and community member.
Robyn Lynn
Robyn Lynn is a Tantra educator, Somatic Coach, group facilitator, feminine mystic, and a guide for those who want to deepen their sense of intimacy, connection and presence in an embodied way. A lifelong student of the unified field, she sees this as the source of meaningful healing, renewal, and inspiration. She has over a decade of experience supporting men, women, couples, and groups. She’s a certified Sexological Bodyworker & Somatic Sexologist with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco and has done graduate Study in Mental Health Counseling at Antioch University, Seattle and has a B.A. in Psychology, Macalester College, St. Paul MN. More at: robynlynn.net
When our primary caregivers are attuned to us and our basic physical and emotional needs get met well enough, we form a Secure Attachment to our primary caregivers. This enables us to develop a secure sense of self, feel confident and comfortable in our own skin, and experience ease coming into and out of connection with others. We trust ourselves and feel confident in our autonomy. At the same time, we feel safe with others and know we can rely on them when we need them. This forms a foundation of trust, ease and fulfillment for all future relationships.
When our primary caregivers were not able to meet our needs consistently enough, or were absent, intrusive or felt threatening, then our brains develop survival mechanisms to try to get our needs met. These get wired in as our Attachment Adaptations which form the blueprint for all future relationships.
The three Attachment Adaptations are Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment and Disorganized attachment.
Healthy Attachment Re-Patterning (HARP) is a cutting edge process that provides ‘corrective experiences’ for adults who (like most of us) experienced attachment disruption with our primary caregivers as children. Through this process one can gently and efficiently release dysfunctional relational patterning from their nervous system, lay down new neural networks of safety, empowerment, and enjoyment, and create more connected, fulfilling adult relationships.
Based on the latest research in neuroplasticity, this revolutionary method retrains the nervous system out of frozen fight or flight responses into expansive states of relaxation, connection, peace and joy. This freedom from outdated survival mechanisms empowers individuals to experience greater ease, pleasure and deep soul nourishment in their relationships.
Unlike traditional talk therapy, this method releases survival programing on the level of the nervous system. Rather than simply treating behavioral symptoms, you heal the core cause of what’s blocking you from more fulfilling intimacy. It goes beyond the rational mind to actually rewire your brain and create new neural networks of safety, security and nourishment – so that you can finally feel relaxed, at ease, confident in yourself and deeply connected and nourished with others.
You Can Benefit from Healthy Attachment Re-Patterning If …
* You often feel anxious about being judged, rejected or abandoned
* You crave intimacy and yet find it scary or overwhelming
* You’re afraid of losing yourself in relationship
* At times you feel hijacked by strong emotional reactions (anxiety, shame, fear, sadness, defensiveness, resentment, anger, etc)
* The thought of getting close to someone and them leaving is terrifying
* You have difficulty identifying and/or advocating for your own needs and desires
* You continually push self-care, nourishment and pleasure to the bottom of the to-do list
* You can feel like you are continually attending to others, and sometimes feel resentful you aren’t receiving enough appreciation, attention, affection and care in return
* You want to feel more confidence and that you matter
* You fear having your space, autonomy and freedom infringed upon in relationship
Based on cutting edge research of how the brain, memory and the social engagement systems work, this powerful approach leads to:
* Enhanced sense of empowerment, freedom and connection
* Greater confidence and resiliency in your nervous system
* Release from patterns of isolation, shame, guilt, resentment and fear
* More ease coming into and out of connection
* The capacity to take in nourishment more readily
* Decreased anxiety and depression
* Increased capacity to develop and sustain intimate, fulfilling relationships
* Full engagement and enjoyment of life
Your early attachment wiring forms your unconscious beliefs and expectations of relationship. It acts like an invisible ‘lens’ through which you view yourself, others and the world. You will be naturally attracted to partners who mirror your early childhood experiences and match your internal template of ‘love.’ If as a child you experienced your primary caregivers as generally safe, reliable, warm, caring, nurturing, responsive and respectful, you will likely attract available, loving, supportive partners. However, if you experienced your primary caregivers as unreliable, physically or emotionally unavailable, dismissive, invasive, domineering or otherwise un-attentive to your needs, you will likely struggle with feeling safe, loved, valued and honored in your adult relationships.
Your Attachment Style is like the operating system of your relational brain. It runs in the background, below your conscious awareness. It dictates how you experience yourself – whether or not you feel confident, capable and worthy of love and respect. And it determines how you relate to others – whether you generally feel secure in your connections with others, or you begin to feel anxious, avoidant, scared or confused when you get more intimate.
Your attachment style programming is usually installed early on, but updates can be installed later in life due to circumstances. For example, if you go through a traumatic breakup, you may develop more anxious or avoidant tendencies toward future relationships.
However, the reverse is also true. Through ‘corrective experiences’ with another, one can develop more secure attachment later in life. This can happen in an intimate relationship, or by working with a specialist in Attachment Re-Patterning.
Personal Growth: Many folks in the attachment and trauma healing community have familiarity with spiritual transformation. Many folks in the container will have a solid sense of presence. If this work is new to you, you will likely develop these traits. Specifics include:
- emotional intelligence (active listening and responsible expression skills)
- capacity to track and attune to self and others
- awareness of our own trauma, relationship patterns, and attachment history
- understanding the importance of a regular embodiment practice (somatic therapy, movement, or other)