Background:

The idea for this event started when Lee wanted Kenneth to teach her some cool “penis tricks” that she’d been hearing about for months. She figured that, as an erotic massage therapist working exclusively with men, Kenneth knew a lot of “techniques” he could teach her. 

Yet during a short demo of said “tricks,” it became very clear that this work was about so much more than how to stroke a cock. Beyond the skills, Kenneth brought a level of presence, attention, attunement that provided a  deeply reverent, whole-bodied approach to opening a man’s body to receiving pleasure. Kenneth’s focus on the subtle energies, heart pathways, and emotions of the man was the biggest yum of the experience. 

Brad, a long-time friend and collaborator of both Kenneth and Lee, as well as a sex and intimacy coach and general-all-around-shaman saw the demo and recognized how the level of presence Ken was demonstrating was a perfect foundation for bringing men and their lovers into more ecstatic, whole-body states during Tantric sex coaching. 

The demo was so powerful for everyone involved (men and women alike) in that it really opened our eyes to the myths that we hold about men and their sexuality. It gave us permission to slow down and take our time. It became clear that to approach a man with touch that is imbued with deep honoring is to open portals in him that are quite expansive. 

This workshop was born. 

Problem:

We all know that sexual trauma in men starts young. Circumcision in infancy, discouragement of emotional expression, shame around self pleasuring, cultural homophobia, etc., lead many men to be very limited in their range of sexual expression. Sometimes men can be so locked up in their pelvic area that the muscle tension literally prohibits energy from flowing. Many men experience premature ejaculation challenges. Others related their sexuality to genital stimulation only. 

Intention:

Through the course of these days together, through yoga, breathwork, movement and sound practices, visualization, emotional expression and release, whole-body massage, as well as comfort and sensual touch, we are gently inviting the body to open so that eros can more fully flow. Eros flowing means more breath into the ribcage and pelvis, more oxygen to the cells, releasing of stuck energy, and more life force available for creativity. 

Outcomes:

We want men to feel more pleasure in their bodies and by doing so to heal the pain, and shame, and trauma that comes from growing up men in our upside down culture.

We are enthusiastically inviting an approach to men’s sexuality that is holistic and looks like whole-body expressions of desire, pleasure, receptivity, and eroticism. 

We are delighted by idea of men being more sexually alive, which to us means to be more intimate with life itself and the life force moving through us. 

We are imagining men leaving this playshop wired to be better lovers – with self and other/s.

We love the idea of men learning to receive. And in doing so receive more love, more capacity for expression, and more ability to feel valued, honored, and adored. We imagine this will heal the world. 

We want this event to foster between each man a deeper connection to self and others. 

We are thrilled about the image of men, in a whole-body ecstatic state, being witnessed and held by other men, by women, by community.  Time slows. There is no longer any separation. Gender hurt is healed, homophobia is healed. Fear is healed. In it’s place is curiosity, expansion, ecstasy, and bliss.  In a room full of people who are so ecstatic that they’re seeing God, what kind of healing is possible?

Tools:

Focus on men: Putting our entire focus for an entire weekend focused on the sacred pleasure of men is one of our most important tools.

Focus on pleasure: Consciously deepening sexual pleasure invites a cracking open of our hearts, our bodies, our erotic nature, and our limitless potential.

Practices: Specifically on practices that expand the reverence for men’s bodies, emotions, and sexuality. Our aim is to make these practices accessible and replicable for ongoing use. 

Tantra: Tantra or sacred sexuality helps us explore the connections between our pleasure and our divinity within a context of deep honoring of the whole person (body, mind, and spirit). 

Presence: The tools of mindfulness, reflection, attunement, consent, guide us to connect more deeply with ourselves and our partners.

Without realizing it, Kenneth has been pursuing Eros all his life, though sometimes erratically and frantically. Over three decades, he has honored my passions and talents for food, sex, and body celebration from a place of wild excesses to a place of directed wisdom. He has learned from many teachers, and is still determined to live on the edge of possibility for what it is to enjoy being human.

The way that we eat is the same as the way that we love and relate. Our relationship to our bodies and what we put in them is inextricably linked in the most intimate way. The way we touch and move, and how we breathe can carve a pathway to wholeness and love in all of our relationships from the most intimate, to those of fleeting acquaintanceship. In his practice of Sacred Intimacy, he embraces clients fully where they are in their own journey, helping them to unlock the secrets of their personal erotic potential.